Interesting insights.  The reaction you get when one friend disappoints the crap out of you, has a dangling thread to another instance, when my reaction was also the same.  Different event - same reaction.  Time for me to investigate and kill the seed once and for all to discover where the source of the pain  is coming from.   How often do we feel so disappointed by those people we have shared our lives with.  Why do they treat us so badly - the circle is meant for closeness and appreciation of others.