Selfish Friends

They compartmentalize their friends.  If family is visiting she excludes you from the celebrations because she doesn't want to mix both together.  Why - what is she trying to hide.    Its her birthday and she wont let us celebrate with her.  Why?   What is she trying to control.  Her husband has food issues and is in fear of his weight climbing when he doesn't exercise or do anything else to be a healthier man. Just controls what goes into his mouth.